Managing & How to Improve Your Sex Life - Painful Sex, Vaginal Pain

Sex life

Painful sex is a common problem that many women experience with vulvar and vaginal medical conditions. Sexual health is a complex phenomenon that involves both the medical and psychological aspects of the sexual response cycle. Medically, veins, arteries, nerves coupled with hormones, neurotransmitters and even vitamins may all be important in the overall sexual response cycle. Women are not only ruled by anatomy and the pelvic organs, but other psychological aspects can directly and indirectly affect the sexual response. Fatigue, stress and time management are also issues that must be addressed in order to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship. If you are suffering from a chronic medical condition like vulvodynia or lichen sclerosus, maintaining a healthy sex life may be problematic and a constant challenge. There are some simple tips that can be implemented to improve your sex life. Important actions to consider include: redefining sexual activities and addressing activities of daily living such as diet, exercise, and stress and time management.

How to improve your sex life

    Many women suffer from painful intercourse and a variety of conditions can cause this troublesome symptom. Sexual health is a complex multifaceted phenomenon that involves medical concerns including veins, arteries, and nerves coupled with genitals and pelvic anatomy. Many women suffer in silence, feeling isolated and alone. They may have sought care from multiple health care professionals who may have misdiagnosed them or even been dismissive in their approach. Painful intercourse can impact not only the sexual life of couples, but it can slowly deteriorate the intimacy and human connection between partners. Hormones, neurotransmitters and vitamins can all be helpful, both as messengers and signals that travel within the body and brain to help stimulate or inhibit the sexual response. Physical concerns with sexuality are also linked to psychological concerns: fatigue, stress, time management when combined with financial stressors can all affect sexual response and sexual mood. Many women and their partners who are experiencing sexual pain feel isolated and alone. Sexual frequency decreases and intercourse is often avoided. Avoidance leads to emotional distance which in turn leads to further loss of sensuality and further decline in sexuality. This cycle can be broken with some simple techniques to help empower a woman and her partner to maintain a healthy sex life, even with a chronic vulvar or vaginal condition.

Some women experience vaginal pain and this may have a direct effect on your sexual intimate life with your partner. Sex may become painful and you may even feel like you need to make excuses. Sometimes the pain may be pressure, soreness or even bleeding after intercourse. Vaginal Pain can have a variety of causes and a diagnosis is important so that the correct problem can be addressed and correctly treated.  It is also important to discuss your concerns with your partner. Partners too, may become distant or even avoidant because they may feel that every attempt at intercourse or intimacy is shut down or their attempts are being ignored. 


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